By Olusegun HOSEA, Akure. 12th August, 2023.
The important of marriage among the people in the society can not be over emphasized. As this involve a lots of process before the intended couple could gets married to themselves. One of these process is for one of them to search for the right person that they will live with for the rest of their life. It was against this backdrop that a renowned Minister of God in our society in person of Pastor Wole Oniyere said most at time people look at INFATUATION to determine their future marriage in life as against the choice of God. He disclosed this when he was answering questions on a Radio programme titled “Eyi Ara” today in Akure, the Capital of Ondo State
According to him, the thoughts of the people most of the time was what they normally presented before God as prayer point for God to answer their prayers.He talked about intuitions as one of the spiritual element of which people normally make use of at times whenever they plan to make a request from their Maker .
He said most of the times both man and woman are using infatuation in selecting their future partner. He said it was not God that are chosen for them most of the time . He explained that God does not dwell in a confusing place where such marriage would hit the rock in future.
Speaking on what Church needed to considered before joining a potential Couple? Pastor Wole had this to say ” In the olden days ,how a marriage will be successful is what the Ministers of God are after and not looking at the immediate. How their Marriage would be fruitful and peaceful like those they have in mind to emulate in the marital life in the society is what people of old are looking at not this day where people prepare for wedding and not for Marriage “.
He explained further that what the Church ought to be looking for was how they could be proud of the success and long lasting of the Marriage they are conducting whereby it would served as a good example for other intending Couples to emulate in future. He said this day, most of the Church are after physical materials they want to collect from the Couple and not the aftermath of the marriage. He said the Church supposed to be looking at the spiritual level of the Marriage first before going into other subsidiary material that would make their marriage meaningful in life .
On the issue of Medical test before marriage, ? Pastor Wole said it was not out of it for a Church to demanded for such medical test before marriage could be conducted. According to him, he said the couple ought to have known about the requirements of their churches whenever they had decided to get married in their Churches. He advised the potential couple to always preserved themselves till after marriage before they could have carnal knowledge of themselves.
To him ,he believed that one year was not too much for them to wait before knowing each other .He said it was not compulsory for the groom to be to have sex with his partner before marriage.He said Couple had to abide with the principles laid down in their Churches before getting married. He however said ,though some churches don’t bother if the Bride to be get pregnant or not. He said It depends, according to some churches while some Churches would requested for the Medical test till the last day of the wedding just to confirm if the bride is not pregnant. He said although this depends on the leadership of such church.
In another development, Pastor Wole also spoke on the need for Couple to know their genotype before getting married , so that they would not have problem in the area of given birth to XX children. He said Medical test on the blood group would prevent people from given birth to still born in future.
According to him, wedding is for the day and Marriage is for a life. He advised people not to bother themselves preaching for an Adult who had determined to get married despite the Medical result of his or her future partner’s genotype , especially if one of them is above thirty years of age . Most especially, if he had been in relationships for like two to three years and you are advising such people to follow the genotype results. He said that such people would not yield to your advice. They would say there was nothing God can not do.
Also, DR Muyiwa Adejayi , opined that Marriage was an important thing in the life of people and that there are some key issues a man or woman need to put into consideration before going into the marriage in life . He said as the couple was preparing for the wedding ceremony so also he should be preparing against what he thoughts that would served as an impediment to his marriage in future in time of living together in peace , in good health and in procreation.
Speaking further, DR Muyiwa said Medical test to determine One genotype is important before marriage. He said though this type of test at times does not go well most of the time with African people because most of them do not like to go for any medical test . He said even , those who are facing one problem or having medical challenge in the society are running away from test let alone those people who are hail and healthy are not willing to do test for themselves and their Children.
He said most parents do not know the type of blood group their children are carrying which he believed that it’s not good for the parents not to know their children genotype and sickness that are dwelling in their bodies.
In another development, DR Muyiwa said it’s necessary for parents to find out about all these in order to determined the health status of their children before getting married in life in order to prevent any future sickness and not until they have gotten married and now be facing one medical health challenge or the other where by they would be looking for one miracle or the other, and in the process end up turning God to be a Magician.
He advised the parents to let their Children get to know their genotype while they are still young . He said they should not allowed them to get matured to a marriageable age where they might gone deep in love with their partner before they could do their genotype.He said two people with xx blood group would not get married to each other . While Ax and Ax may likely give birth to AA or Ax or xx blood group .He advised people to adhere to the advice of the Medical Doctor in this regard and not depend on faith as this may cause problem to their marriage in future.
Weather blood group normally change as one child is developing in life? DR Muyiwa said this was a great fallacy and total deceive . He said genotype does not change at all at time of development of children in life . He said blood does not change. According to him, he said this was called genetic constitution in medical terms. That the same blood such person had when he or she was in four months is what he would carried till his God called him home .
He said its unfortunate that both couple and the men of God are not after the genotype most of the time especially if the couple had been over shadowed with love.
Furthermore, DR Muyiwa said children born with XX most of the time do give their parents problem but they can also get better in life depending on the type of the care their parents provided for them . He re-emphasized that its possible for parents with AX and AX to give birth to AA, AX, and XX. But this according to him was a chance or probability as both A and X stood separately on their own.
He said to avoid this , it’s better for the parents to let their children know their genotype before marriage so that they could avoid the issue that would come after it.
On the law that government should put in place that would allow the people to know their genotype? DR Muyiwa had this to say .That government had various plans that would allow the people to know their status of their health. He said one of the plan was the medical test that was being required by the government before a child can enter school or get Jobs in the society. According to him, even the pregnant woman too are being required to do medical test most of the time in the hospital to know the status of their pregnancy . He said but most people do not like to do medical test and that was why they are having problem. He said the test are affordable and not too expensive that people could not afford. He said it’s just that people are not interested in doing it.
In furdrance to this, DR Muyiwa spoke on the public campaign about what both government, Private and NGO had been doing on the issue of Hepatitis B in order to sensitized general public on the need for them to go for the medical check up to prevent and treat any related cases that may want to surface in their bodies in respect to this .
He said it’s unfortunate that despite the efforts been made by the government in order to sensitized the people, he said our people are not taking the campaign serious as they are not care to listen to those people doing the campaign let alone of making use of the message. He said government had been trying by using different types of communication channels to communicate their intentions to the public.
He advised the couple to always know their genotype before getting married because there is no marriage without a problem. While asking them not to let their stubborn children give them problem , DR Muyiwa Adejayi said our ladies and Gentlemen should shown greed and not to based their marriage decision upon monetary aspect of their future Partner.
From the public response, some people want to know if it’s possible for the terrestrials to change one genotype from the original one to another ? Pastor Wole said it’s not possible for such to happen. While other people said what brought about the issue of knowing one genotype this day before getting married was as a result of the sins committed by this Generation and that such requirements was not necessarily required during the olden days before our forefather could get married.